Berikut ini petikan dari kolom Manalyst dari majalah Herworld edisi Oktober 2009.
Pertanyaan :
Pacar saya sudah berjanji akan menikahi saya. Tapi sebelum berkomitmen dia ingin mengumpulkan uang terlebih dulu, jadi mungkin kami baru menikah tahun depan. Sebenarnya saya sih ingin dilamar dulu, tapi saya tidak ingin menekannya. Apa yang harus saya lakukan?
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Jawaban:
Yang dapat anda lakukan adalah membawa agenda anda dalam sebuah perbincangan ringan.
Katakan dengan santai disertai senyuman manis, “Eh sayang, kalau kita lamaran dulu sepertinya lebih bagus kali ya?
Biar kita lebih fokus nabungnya, jadi ada target gitu :)”
Katakan seakan-akan hal itu bukanlah hal yang penting.
Dengarkan tanggapannya.
Perlu diingat, biasanya laki-laki sudah punya rencana sendiri di benaknya yang seringkali tidak dia komunikasikan pada pasangannya, agar tidak khawatir.
Jadi, pastikan dia mengerti isi hati anda.
Apabila jawabannya diplomatis, sebaiknya jangan memaksakan kehendak, sebab laki-laki ada alasan yang kuat untuk hal tersebut.
If u love your man, you have to trust the man 🙂
Menurut buku dan film “He’s Just Not That Into You“,
“If a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, no matter what.”
Namun apabila jawabannya terkesan ngambang dan kurang menganggap penting pertanyaan anda, mungkin sebaiknya anda tidak menutup pintu hati untuk yang lain 🙂
Karena jodoh ditangan Tuhan, dan siapa tahu aja itu cara untuk memberitahu bahwa “he’s maybe not the one“.
Semoga sukses ya 🙂
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menarik..become rubrik konsultasi nh Mas:)
right Mas, sedikit menyambungkan,mengutip perbincangan kaum perempuan
if a man wants to be with a woman, he will do something
“means when there is a little action must there is a some re-action”
and when there is no re-action or do something
means he just not that in to her at all, just to make sure and compare.
what is your opinion in a man side?
due to many character of a man, pasive, active, talkless, talkmore n etc..?
thx b 4
🙂
Kebetulan dipercaya memegang kolom Manalyst bersama dua orang rekan lain.
Menjawab pertanyaan pembaca yang mostly perempuan terhadap permasalahan mereka seputar relationship dengan pria, dari sudut pandang pria untuk wanita (nah loo).
Basically universe is about balance.
It’s a balance system.
Relationship also need to be balance.
It takes two to tango.
When we really try to be serious to build a care, honest, loving and mutual relationship with someone, then we do it totally.
There are many kinds of men, yes, there are passive, active, talk less, talkative, etc.
But when we go to serious one (next stage of relationship), then it need trust to built commitment that will provide more trust to come and the cycle continue.
And a gentleman is always serious in words as well as in his actions.
So, “If a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, no matter what.”
“If he’s not give any reaction, than he’s maybe not the one“.
thank u Mas, for enlightment
i just read a book review of he just not that in to you..but a little hehehe
it seem negative believe and curiously dont you?
i think is opposite with The secret book that i have read n i watch the video a several time, that teach us to positive believe, n make a nice dream…n all will come to you easily…
sorry Mas, if so many question
i am one of talkativ woman hehe
🙂
Because there are no such things are reality.
Reality is Relative to each person.
Reality only happen in our (mind and body)perception.
Both books are good and explaining right concept.
Depends on point of view or preference of their readers.
Just like reality, it’s all relative, there are no right or wrong books.
Only preferences 🙂
God bless you.
All is well.
i get the point Mas, “point of view”
(“hehe smoga pengarangnya gak marah aqu comment in..”:d)
thank u Mas, my mind, view, and perception..is open now
make me be a better woman..
Yes Only preferences 🙂
God bless you too Mas Ferry..
is a honour for me could discussion with you
The feeling is mutual Mbak.
Thank you for these lovely discussion.
keep visiting my site and your comments are very valuable for me.
Thank you
Yes i will Mas, i’ll keep waiting ur inspiring word
Lovely discussion 4 me too Mas thank u,
U r great motivator 🙂
like this topic..the summary is ‘he’s just not that in to u’